You know those days when nothing seems to go right? When you can’t even pull yourself off the bed, couch, chair – wherever you may have laid yourself that day? When it’s like the world is completely crumbling under your feet, but no one else seems to feel the quaking and they just walk by like everything is fine? Yeah, those days. I’ve had a good number of them (with an alarming ratio being in the last four months), but I’ve discovered one thing: you’ve got to find something that makes you happy; something that lifts up your heart and holds it above the water for you when your drowning, because you can’t on your own.
For me, I have two tried-and-true methods: music and reading. Notice the massive increase in books read in the last three months? That’s no coincidence. I’ll break them both down for you, and hopefully you’ll find your own methods to try out for those blue days!
Music: I read a self-help book a long time ago about teen girls and depression, trying to find some ways to fix myself so I could actually enjoy high school. That was me, at fifteen, trying to “fix everything.” At eighteen, I still do the same thing, but I’ve also learned just to ride it out and know that it’s not okay now, but it will be soon enough. I didn’t take many tips from that book, but one has stuck with me for several years now: make a mix of songs to lift your mood. Inspirational, girl power, get-up-and-dance-in-your-pjs type of music. Oh yes: Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Beyonce, and more!
I just made a new disc today (it being Tuesday as I write this post), and based it on songs that make me want so sing so loud I lose my voice. It’s a long-drive-in-the-car sort of mix, with songs that all get me dancing like an idiot (think Matt Smith), but 100% are sure to make me feel better.
My mix includes (if you can’t read it all):
- Love Drunk by Boys Like Girls
- Titanium by David Guetta ft. Sia
- Light ‘Em Up by Fall Out Boy
- Young Volcanoes by Fall Out Boy
- What I Wouldn’t Do by A Fine Frenzy
- Run, Don’t Walk by Hey Monday
- It’s Time by Imagine Dragons
- On Top of the World by Imagine Dragons
- Fingerprints by Katy Perry
- Firework by Katy Perry
- Stronger by Kelly Clarkson
- Mr. Brightside by The Killers
- All These Things That I’ve Done by The Killers
- Below My Feet by Mumford & Sons
- The Cave by Mumford & Sons
- Animal by Neon Trees
- You’re Gonna Go Far, Kid by The Offspring
- Courage by Orianthi ft. Lacey Sturm
- Shooting Star by Owl City
- Embers by Owl City
- Long Live by Taylor Swift
- Ready Aim Fire by Imagine Dragons
- Clarity by Zedd ft. Foxes
- Kings and Queens by 30 Seconds to Mars
And then the red bit says “Be Happy – Sing – Laugh – Scream – Cry – Just BE.” Yeah, it’s cheesy, but it’s a reminder that no matter what, just be alive, be present, and everything will be okay. Like right now I have the tracks playing in iTunes, and I keep taking typing breaks to shimmy around when it gets to a good part in the song. It’s a huge blend of genres and styles, but I have a pretty wide music taste, so it suits me. If Bach gets your goat, play Midnight Sonata over and over again! Eminem really inspire you? Blast that cd so loud your neighbors will scream “Turn that racket down!” To each their own 🙂
Reading: I don’t think I can emphasize it enough how much books have helped me in these last few months. It’s an escape, and it gives me a chance to not only develop my writing skills through blogging, but I’ve made friends through all of this too. Fantasy will always have a special place in my heart, and it’s what I usually gravitate to when I’m feeling down, but in the last week (thanks to Veronica, Andi, and Arial) I’ve expanded to reading more contemporary fiction. Before, I always read those tear-jerkers. Remember my review of TFiOS? Let me refresh your memory:
But those three lovely, amazing people showed me that there’s actually such a thing as happy contemporary books! Enter Anna and the French Kiss. I have never felt so buoyant after reading a book – at least, not that I can remember. Yes, there was a bit of angst in it, but the happy ending had me singing, at 12 AM no less. I didn’t even know that was possible from a contemporary book! Contemporary always equated to pain in my mind. I think there should be more books like that, or the ones that are need to reach the same popularity as the feels-inducing ones. Or maybe I’m just living under a rock, and there are way more than I thought? *hunts down Veronica to drag her to Barnes and Noble*
So, after all my rambling, you should have learned two things: play music, and sing to it, no matter how much you sound like a dying cat, and read happy books, because life is hard enough as it is, and we don’t always need to have our hearts wrenched out by John Green.
I send thee out, and require reports of music-making and happy-book-reading within one week!
What other methods do you use to lift up your mood?